Phone Calls

I've been talking to a few guys one the phone.

Outdoor Man isn't that good looking. He's into the outdoors, works at a 9-5 office job, and seem talkative enough to keep me on the phone for a couple times. I remember reading his profile that he's allergic to cats, and he has a bird. Well. We will see.

Biotech Guy is pretty good looking. In fact, I was very eager to correspond with him after reading his profile. We messaged a couple times, then he checked my profile, then didn't respond for a few days. Finally we exchanged phone numbers, and we talked on the phone once. I cracked a few sarcastic comments and he didn't respond to the humor. He likes to counter my statements, that is, all statements, with "well" then the opposite of what I just said. The conversation died pretty quickly. I was kind of put off by his, well, I am not sure what it is. Arrogance? Lack of sense of humor?

Homophobe messaged me to hang out. No name, no phone number, just the place. I played along and said yes. But who would schedule a "date" or meetup without exchanging phone numbers and names? My rule, though, is that I won't give out my name or number until the guy gives it up first. Safety. I didn't go on our supposed date. Turned out he didn't either. I used the excuse of not remembering to change the clock. He said he couldn't find the place. Seriously. Finally we exchanged name and number, and we talked on the phone once. He sells insurance. I am always put off by anyone in Sales or even Marketing. I guess I am scarred for life by the sales people I work with. But an insurance sales? That turned me off quicker than dropping a ton of ice on me. I held my tongue. Give the guy a chance. There's got to be some insurance sales who are also decent intelligent human being. But he wasn't one. He made homophobic comments, generalizes, and not in funny ways.

I realized that having a good paying job isn't attractive to me. I find them boring as if they have no ambition. I am attracted to entrepreneurs - regardless if they are or have the potential to be successful - like my asshole ex-boyfriend, or people who has changed careers like Dr. TGIASE. However, I myself is one with a good paying job. Even though my job isn't traditional, I am still, nonetheless, just working. If I applied the same standards to myself, I wouldn't be attracted to me.

I also realized that as much as I love those deep intellectual conversations I had with Dr. TGIASE, they tired me after a while. It's a huge turn on in the beginning, but a few months in I just want to be a normal couple doing boring couple things, and have those deep intellectual conversations once in a while. Dr. TGIASE continued to have those conversations, with or without me, and it made me very tired, constantly wondering if I am intellectually challenging enough for him.

Well dates are lined up. I don't feel anything remotely close to how I felt about Dr. TGIASE after our messages and few phone calls. I don't expect to feel remotely close to how I felt about Dr. TGIASE after our first date.