It's been three months since we started dating. We have survived two semi-long road trips. I get annoyed and paranoid from time to time, but that's about me not Dr. TGIASE. Things to look out for:
1. I should try to tone down the grossness competition. There's a point of grossness for a girl for the guy to think the girl is cool, and there's the point for the guy to think the girl is gross. I may have gone too far.
2. I should be more sensitive to the fact that Dr. TGIASE is a student. While I have no problem paying for stuff because I want him to go to cool places with me, he may rather stay home and not have to face either letting the girl pay or paying out of his non-money-making bank account.
3. I look at Dr. TGIASE and I feel that I love him. But are we fundamentally compatible? We have fairly different interests, but we do seem to have fairly similar world value. Can I take a compatibility test now so I don't go any further if there's big red flags?
4. And there is the question that's too early to ask in the relationship but may be too late to ask in life: will I be too old to have children by the time he's ready? When will he be ready? When he's done with med school? When he's done with residency? When he's done with fellowship? I am okay with no children, but he wants children. If by the time he's ready to have a child and I couldn't, will he leave me? We touched on the subject of adoption, and the impression I got was that he wanted his biological children. So when do I bring this topic up?
5. I've learned that Dr. TGIASE is a sweet tongue: he will say things to make me feel good but not necessarily live up to what he says. I should keep this in mind and keep my head cool so I don't fall head over heel onto my ass.
