According to Okcupid, this would be the perfect message I send in the future to guys:
What's up. You mentioned a band called Metal Zombie. That's awesome. I am not an atheist.
I am going to test the effectiveness of this message.
Monday, November 14, 2011
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
One Month
I have known Dr. TGIASE for a whole month, and we are still talking, and we still like each other (gasp!)!!
About two weeks ago I told him about one of my deepest, albeit irrational, fears. His actions were very considerate of my deep irrational fear, yet he made fun of me about that every time in the following week. At that point I've gotten to know him well enough to know that he meant no harm in his mocking of me. I've also learn to judge a person on his actions rather than words. Still, it bothered me tremendously that he'd mock my fear. I wasn't ready to have that mocked, yet.
I slept on it for a week to decide if it's really bothering me, or if it's just a power struggle thing. It really bothered me, and the mocking countered all his good actions and made my fear worse. So I told him that it hurts me when he mocks my fear. He apologized, and said he wouldn't do it again.
He hasn't. And his actions continue to show consideration and care.
I find myself more vocal with him about my needs. I do wonder if he's secretly put off by my needs and started walking around me on eggshells. Time will tell.
But that's the worst thing happened so far in the relationship, and from my perspective, we navigated that quite successfully. Happy one month!
About two weeks ago I told him about one of my deepest, albeit irrational, fears. His actions were very considerate of my deep irrational fear, yet he made fun of me about that every time in the following week. At that point I've gotten to know him well enough to know that he meant no harm in his mocking of me. I've also learn to judge a person on his actions rather than words. Still, it bothered me tremendously that he'd mock my fear. I wasn't ready to have that mocked, yet.
I slept on it for a week to decide if it's really bothering me, or if it's just a power struggle thing. It really bothered me, and the mocking countered all his good actions and made my fear worse. So I told him that it hurts me when he mocks my fear. He apologized, and said he wouldn't do it again.
He hasn't. And his actions continue to show consideration and care.
I find myself more vocal with him about my needs. I do wonder if he's secretly put off by my needs and started walking around me on eggshells. Time will tell.
But that's the worst thing happened so far in the relationship, and from my perspective, we navigated that quite successfully. Happy one month!
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