The invalidations

In our society, the hierarchy for women goes like this:

Married with children
Divorced with children
Married with no children
Unpartnered with children
Unpartnered with no children

An unpartnered, childless woman of a certain age is at the bottom of the barrel. To my society, and to a large extend my friends and families, I don't exist. Not the real me, the unpartnered, childless me. To them, I am simply the wife/mother-in-training.

To be invalidated by my society based solely on my fertility and marital status hurts. My contribution, otherwise, to the society is ignored. But I can live with this. I know my own worth; I have faith that my worth will be recognized by someone somewhere.

However, to be invalidated by Dr. TGIASE, the man I love(d), hurts to no end. Here is a man, a lover, a partner, who told me my entirety, everything I've got to offer him, is nothing compared to the fertility a 28-year-old can offer him. To be invalidated by someone I respected, loved, dreamt of a future with, it is a huge blow to my values and believes. I booked an appointment to talk to my physician about freezing my eggs. I wish I were a man.

What's more scary is that how many men actually believe this but would never say it out loud? All of them? It's a primal need, but we aren't hunter gathers anymore. All these bullshit about primal need of non-monogamous, finding women with big boobs, aren't they just all excuses for one to justify hurting someone else? I don't judge people who wants non-monogamous relationships as long as no one gets hurt. We live in a world much different than the paleolithic age, why haven't we evolved to behave according to our environment? Aren't these evolutionists all hypocrites in terms of this?

In the end, how does one live hopefully without comprising her values in the face of all these invalidations?