Mr. Adventures

I enjoy meeting people who have done more than I have. I don't like the spot light but am very good at shinning it on someone else. Mr. Adventures has done many things I had wanted to do: hike Mt. Whitney, scuba dive off Cuba, go on a submarine. This translates to many stories.

I met Mr. Adventures on the aforementioned free internet dating site. The messaging was short but frequent. There wasn't really any sparks. I met him at a small wine bar. For the first time when I started this dating life a man arrived before I did! But alas, I am not physically attracted to him at an instant. He's about my height if not shorter, muscular, and the face is pale. No, I like tall, skinny (not muscular), and darker Caucasians.

So I sat down, ordered a glass of wine, and thought "what the heck. I've never been to this wine bar so at the very least I get to try a new place in town." Do I have a good attitude or what? ;-P

We started talking. The beginning was a little slow. Mr. Adventures didn't smile much, and when he smiled I noticed the teeth: not very straight, not very white. So overall I am not physically attracted to him. But once the conversation started, I was able to get Mr. Adventures to recount all these interesting places he's been to and adventurous things he's done. He is very articulate and talkative with a little probing on my side. We also started talking about movies and shows, and we discovered that we have very similar tastes there. Little did I know an hour and a half had passed in the wine bar. He asked if I'd like to get dinner, and there's this new BBQ restaurant I wanted to try. One of the perks of going on so many dates is that I get to try all these new places and don't have to go alone. So I told him I'll get the check at the wine bar and he can pay for dinner. He agreed.

We went out to his car, which happens to be one of my dream cars - so he has good taste. He opened the door for me - good manners. Drove to the restaurant, ate, conversed for another hour. I had walked to the wine bar to meet him, so he drove me home, kissed me at the front door. He's a much better kisser than Mr. Needy.

I didn't laugh wholeheartedly all night. He didn't smile much so he's face was sort of intimidating. I was wondering if he's having a good time all night until he told me he was at the end. When I tell a joke I can tell if the other person truly find it funny or just laugh out of courtesy. With Mr. Sparks I felt that he laughed because he truly found me funny. With Mr. Adventures I felt that I had given my best but he only chuckled... I didn't feel those butterflies I felt with Mr. Sparks all night even when we kissed. When I got home he texted me right away and asked me out again. I didn't feel the pushiness as I felt from Mr. Needy. In fact, I felt much at ease with texting Mr. Adventures than texting Mr. Sparks.

I know the feeling with Mr. Sparks very well. I've always fallen for guys like that. I am not familiar with the feelings with Mr. Adventures. It's calm, even, easy, but no butterflies.

Assuming I had a choice, what do I choose?

Einstein said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting the same result. My sanity says I should go with Mr. Adventures because things haven't exactly worked out well with the likes of Mr. Sparks, and this time it will be no different.

Conversations with Mr. Sparks were based on our similar sense of humor and observations and likes and dislikes. Even if we ran out of stories to tell each other, I could continue to have conversations with Mr. Sparks for eternity. We invent stories. In short, I felt in sync with Mr. Sparks.

I felt with Mr. Adventures we will soon run out of conversation topics when the stories are done. We don't have that rapport like Mr. Sparks and I have. But maybe Mr. Adventures and I will just invent a different type of conversation. I think I need to go on a few more dates with Mr. Adventures to find out if we will run dry.

Another perspective from this date is whether Mr. Sparks felt about me the same way I felt about Mr. Adventures: pleasant to be around, but no butterflies; workable, but not exciting. I think of this because I am pretty sure Mr. Adventures feels about me the same way I feel about Mr. Sparks. He texted me at least 10 times the same night after our first date. Still not obnoxious as Mr. Needy. Mr. Needy you really did something wrong there...

What I learned: how a submarine makes oxygen by splitting water and makes fresh water from salt water.

Second date: pending. Much needed to see where this goes.